How to pay off student loans and become financially independent?

I have 4 student loans 3 through sallie mae and a personal one. all totaling about 63 thousand dollars. I am curently living with my boyfriend who has his own house which he stillpays on and we want to get married in the next two years, and start having a family and we also want to build our own house with the money we will get from selling our house now. but my question is how do I handle my debt and still be able to have a wedding and and be able to still do things i.e. vacations and normal stuff start a family and such. I want us to be able to pay off our debts and be able to save money as well. we want to be financially set but I fell my student loans are going to be a problem. we are doing fine now and he is doing well, good job and has his bills situated. I wan to get those loans paid off as soon as I can but with different loand and interests what should I do. I heard it will look bad on your credit if you consolidate? How do we become financially independent.